This is a follow-up to an article posted about “going Dutch on the first date”. As a friendly reminder we will do a recap. The moral of the story was if a guy ask you out on a date he should pay for the date but you would be the real MVP to leave the tip after dinner. Now is that how all situations occur? No, certainly not. Some women carry the majority of the expenses and they are fine with it, while some women don’t bring anything to the table but themselves. And that brings us to the second part of the topic, how much should your partner contribute? Some people feel if you’re not married then everything as far as finances should be split 50/50, and I’ve even heard married people still splitting things 50/50.
I mean honestly after the honey moon stage is over in the relationship, women we should at least have the common courtesy to surprise our men with dates and trips so they feel appreciated. Most of the time a true gentleman will never let you see the check, but from time to time offer to pay, it’s the thought that counts. If he is going through a rough spell and may not have the money flowing in like he used to, ladies would you carry the weight until he is able to again? Would you carry your own weight and bring a dish to the table? Having a man provide for you is fine but what are you willing to do for him besides open your legs? No one wants to be around a taker, a complainer, a person in constant competition with them. Home is where peace should be not war. I think we women are queens and we may get spoiled with that title but a real queen makes sure the palace is always operating and her king is constantly at ease. However, if a man isn’t doing things to be deserving of such treatment, then no, he shouldn’t receive it, but then ask yourself why are you letting a man treat you less than you deserve? Don’t get so caught up on what you feel, know what’s real, it’s nothing wrong with you helping out. Don’t take advantage of a good situation, instead capitalize and build, make it a great situation.
It takes a real man to help a woman understand no amount of money can replace time spent and memories made. Men are the providers and protectors of the hierarchy. In some men there is a disconnect with the responsibility and yet the benefit is still expected to be reciprocated. If you show a queen that you will give your all to her, she will die making sure that you never have to. Real women speak life into the men around her, your dreams will be her dreams. Sadly, some women will suck the breath out of you, anything you try to accomplish will crumble so choose wisely. This is why you must protect and provide for the real women, because she will abandon her dream to speak life into yours. When there is a balance you as a leader can make sure she doesn’t have to leave her path to pave yours, you enrich her life so she is 10 times the woman as before. I believe men should pay bills, but not all of them. I believe men should pay for dates, but not every date. I believe men should be gift givers, but they deserve to be receivers also. I do believe men are the leaders, but real men know how to follow good directions.
I have been a taker as well as a giver and I can say both meant nothing at the time of occurrence. I took material and monetary things to replace time and love. I took because I thought the world owed me. I was a taker because I felt like no one was going to get me before I got them, and I always was the one who got got, go figure. At times I gave from the heart and other times I gave out of guilt and out of manipulation. I gave until I didn’t have anything left for me and it still wasn’t enough. I gave to gain acceptance and still didn’t get an invite. It all taught me balance, taught me self-love and self perseverance. I learned you get what you give in everything you do. nothing is owed to you and no one can read your mind. If you need help ask, if you don’t then be a helper. I ultimately learned love is an action. The way we spend our money on each other should be based upon the need it will eliminate, the joy it will bring and the memories it will created. One of my favorite quotes by Samuel Johnson is, “Kindness is in our power even when fondness is not”.
By: Keidra Ponder
A mastermind of his time, Cincinnati, Ohio native, Christopher “Y0$#! (Yoshi)” Jackson brings his own vibe to the definition of Hip-Hop. The “Cat in the Hat That Can Rap” better known as Yoshi is an innovative lyricist, with an undeniable sound. Yoshi peculiar style is brought froth through his underground movement and mainstream industry presence. Yoshi thrives on giving life to his listeners and spectators through music. Bringing people of all cultural backgrounds together by creating great vibes and memories; while avoiding any social boundaries or racial standards is what Yoshi’s movement is all about. You can catch him out in a top hat with 2 different shoes and 2 watches.
Yoshi has opened for a number of artist including; Migos, 2 Chainz, Scotty Atl, Sean Paul of the Young Bloodz, Zoe Dollaz, Tuki Carter, Quinton Miller and more. Blessing the mic at A3C16, Yoshi took part in the Guinness World Record for the longest cypher. During A3C17 Yoshi received more like than Nas (via A3C app) for the number one ranked artist of A3C17. You can expect to see more of Yoshi as he will perform on Makin’ It Mag’s ATX Soundstage during SXSW18. Always anticipate a show when this “Cat in the Hat That Can Rap” is on the mic. For more event information follow Yoshi on Instagram @kingyoshiman and on his website Yoshi Crew .
